Hope- Thanks for posting to me. I wondered what you would have to say. Ok, so both sexes can handle not having sex when it gets "past the point".
Thanks for supporting me staying with my H. I really appreciate it.
I see what you are saying about keeping secrets and how that can keep us away from emotionally connecting. I'm going to think on that some more......there's a part that thinks I should due to the reasons you and Pup give and the fact that it would really help getting it off of my shoulders, but there's another part that thinks it is unselfish of me to not tell him and I want to do that for him. Your questions were all good ones, ones that run through my head. Yes, the lack of desire could DEFINITELY be that I'm afraid that if I ML with him it will not compare to what it was like with OM and I'll feel disappointed.....but yet, I know I can't compare because one was a fantasy like relationship and one is the real thing...plus, I wasn't the same with the OM as I am with my H. I was like a different person...I'm not sure if it was my authentic self (as oldtimer describes sometimes) but it was a different self.
I like the way you gave to tell him. Again, I WILL think more on it. Maybe I could say it in counseling where there would be someone there that could help him with his feelings? I dont know.
Pup- I'm going to think more about what you said. I do understand what you are saying about wanting her to be truthful.
Kettrickson- THanks for posting. I only read the very first few pages last night of the PM book. It is not an easy read and I found myself reading things over and over to really understand them and get something out of them. What you said about how it feels for the first time.....that makes sense to me. I'll try to not be afraid.
