How about "As we discussed, I would like to take the kids to reunion Staurday. I'll pick them up at such and such a time. There's a hockey game after might get a hotel room with kids. I'll let you know."
Leave out the part about she isn't missing anything and the invite.
I wouldn't add Mom sends her love either. If your mom wants to tell her that, I'm sure she knows how to reach her.
What's that HMM...too bad. Mean, does she think I'm asking for sympathy. That's two emails now she's used that term, the first one, she was calling me a liar.
Why all the sudden the change? My gut is telling me something is up for sure.
She thought, my "you don't fail if you lose, only if you quit" signature was a dig on her. I've been using that for at least 2wks,back when I went ballastic and you all said Sandra needed to kick me in the head.
Now all the sudden I'm trusted, my gut told me yesterday she was going to change tactics with a "difficult" person.
She sits with my dad, she calls my step mom, in an email she says she trusts me with kids, just touch base. If I go out of town swing kids by her moms let the kids tell her bday.
AND THE MARRIAGE,KIDS PHOTO ALBUMS WERE OUT. And she had pictures of kids with me as kids, holding and cuddling them on cntr. IN A DIFFERENT STACK. None of us all together, but what the heck?!!!
I did fix dinner for kids,D put up a fight about this wkend, told her tuff, fighting for you,ur spending time with me.
The kids asked me to do something that would've required go by my old bed room, said no, Not going to cross a boundary.
My gut keeps telling me this isn't good, but bad. I had to look at emails and not get excited,I know right now this isn't a good person, being nice, but a bad mlc'er, trying to feel nice.
I did not go to practice, almost did, emailed wife was going to,then went hold on, that isn't putting kids first!!They're home sick and i haven't been in that house in awhile.Made 'em dinner,did hwork,put dishes in dishwasher away and cleaned my mess.Went to grocery store got cold medicine,trash bags,they were out and something to make tomorrow nite.
Earlier today, she emailed asked if I was still going to go to practice...my response...wasn't putting you off at a cnslr i would not recommend.
That cnslr i went to today,wanted me to talk things out,she said she knew what a MLC was and how to protect me.What a joke.
No i didn't ask her to diagnose,told her hey wifes in a MLC,this is what I've done,this is how I feel,what do you recommend with your 35yrs of experience.
Asked same ?'s asked earlier,do they ever remember how good they really had it. And my being nice is that a form of weakness?
You daughter wanted to do something with you and your wife said no...but other than that your wife is more than willing to let the kids decide when to see you.
And let me get this right...its going to take all your money you squirreled away to 'save' her from her lease? Ahhh hell you do that and she just might reward her white knight with a night of bliss...(someone slap me) No AYK don't she more than likely won't care. Stop trying to save her.
YOU ARE UNDER THE FALSE IMPRESSION THAT YOU CAN MAKE THIS GO AWAY.
YOU ARE UNDER THE FALSE IMPRESSION THAT YOU CAN TRICK HER.
YOU UNDER THE FALSE IMPRESSION THAT THERE IS SOME FAST WAY THROUGH THIS.
You can either focus and slow down or you can burn out and quit on this. You have found ONE OF THE BEST places to save your marriage, but in your current mind frame you're going to quit and think it was a waste of time...because you aren't doing it right. Your fault.
DBing is all about becoming a better person, not tricking your spouse into coming back to the marriage...that is actually a lot of luck involved with that...and skill you have learned.
There are too many DAMNED good people who are simply amazing, and IF/WHEN their spouses snap the f out of their little self absorbed MLC world are going to be blessed to have them in their life.
Get to work on getting better.
How did I miss that post???I never saw it.
Is it normal to feel some sort of accomplishment at the end of the day without giving up all of ur identity?
I'm frustrated, but i feel complete and good about myself and what i'm doing, but at the drop of the hat, i could go nuts inside again, what the heck. Does it ever get alittle better? _________________________
It does get better with time. Then you slip and fall on your a$$ again. That's ok (mountain west is going to build an a$$ wiper). You learn what works for you to make yourself feel better. Then you either go at it again or you fold.
I'm more the "stand defiant on the wall in the face of the horde" type. You?
