"If you really knew me, you wouldn't like me." WTF?
This statement could mean a couple of things IMO. Either she does not like herself ~ we tend to project our own beliefs on others; OR, she is doing/has done something that she knows is wrong and doesn't think that she deserves for you to like her anymore.
Either way, you have to do you. As hard as that sounds, and believe me, it ain't easy, you have to detach from her. I am a glutton for punishment myself, I just keep believing it will go away one day or just change because that's how it should be.
The truth of the matter is that while we all have some responsibility in the messes that are our M, we have to let go of them enough to hold onto ourselves. I have lost my essence and I am trying to get it back. Don't let it get to the point where you lose yours. GAL and detaching are the best things you can do for yourself right now. Have no expectations from her at all! Yes, you love her but maybe she is right, maybe you wouldn't like her if you knew what she knows. It doesn't even mean that it would be a dealbreaker, but it might mean you need this space as much as she does.
Keep your chin up and pray.
BIM
Last edited by brownidmom; 10/13/0912:45 PM.
BIM M 39 / H 40 / S 9 / S 6 / T 20 / M 11
my sitch: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1828127#Post1828127
