You are doing a great job. Please don't be so hard on yourself about your feelings over your anniversary. It is very normal to have those feelings. But don't send her any TM or emails while you are feeling like you do. Remember, don't act out of emotions b/c you will be sorry whenever you do that. Hold off about her silly TM's until you are fully rested again.

IDK.....I have wondered about those silly TM's and think that is her way of trying to make a connection with you, but then why didn't she take you up on your offer to go to dinner on your anniversary? I was surprised that she didn't. Oh well, can't stew over that.

Hope you get some rest and you'll feel more like working on the apartment.

Take care

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!