Okay, I understand now about your W visitation with your D.

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Okay I see the concept now. I have to ask though does this work with every WAS? I get the distinct impression that my wife would be happier if there was no contact at all so dropping the rope won't make a difference to her.


I sense some fear in what you said here. The point is that you don't do this as a ploy to get her back, but it is to help you be free to move forward. One thing is for sure....as long as you presist in tugging on that rope....it only gets worse and I do not know of a case where it worked getting the W back. However, dropping the rope works wonders. It gives the LBS a sense of freedom whether his W turns back or not. Can you say what would be an advantage of hanging on and pulling back on that emotional rope?

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!