Do I just have to file for D myself, and walk away?
No, you don't do that. Those things she is saying is old script for a WAW who feels guilty b/c she wants to leave but knows that she doesn't have a justified reason so that makes her mad at you. She wants to leave without being the bad guy, but knows she can't. These are those things that you have to have a tough back and let it run off. It is "her" problem. Don't make it your problem.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
