Hey K.. came to check on you this morning.. Kimmie, with respect, theres kind of no point taking such a rational approach.."So what their Mum/Dad died? That doesnt excuse their behaviour, therefore I'm not willing to take them back." If that was the line we all took here, this forum would be empty. In fact, 'normal' people, who dont DB and just move on from a relationship when it ends () probably WOULD take that attitude. But for some reason, those of us who found DBing decided to give our spouse the benefit of the doubt that they didnt really mean to hurt, betray and abandon us and still love us deep down.. they were just having a bit of a brain fart !!!
Seriously, as I said, its not an excuse, me and bf were just trying to say that SOME people do react badly to death in that they externalise their grief and act out, rather than actually deal with it.
) probably WOULD take that attitude. But for some reason, those of us who found DBing decided to give our spouse the benefit of the doubt that they didnt really mean to hurt, betray and abandon us and still love us deep down.. they were just having a bit of a brain fart !!!
