you know it may be awhile before 1) she finds herself and 1) knows it and 3) admits it...and 4) admits it to you...
Keep the road home paved and smooth--no pressure. Not now.
And don't expect a lightning bolt to wake her up overnight. This is a Long twisting journey, albeit a pain in the butt journey for YOU b/c of her, but now, you're on YOURS and that's that. While she's gone you already know some of the up sides of that. You will find more positives b/c your attitude is positive. "What can I create in my life today?" NOT the old behaviors of asking "What will she/feel/think/do and with whom or where??? How will I know? What will I say? What should my facial expression be? How long should I make eye contact if any?? ENOUGH...that's over now.
If in fact she goes, you get the place ready and set up as if she's gone--fix it in a way that makes room for new friends of the kids or yours and a fun area or something...no big bare spots/holes in the view so you get to be reminded "SHE'S GONE!!" all the time. No more of that... and tell me the sitch with the kids. Can they stay with you, and you hire someone?
Don't block her way thru this maze she has created...and start your own journey of YOU and YOUR STORY now...you know that whole "be the author of your life's novel" speech I make? Yeah? So go write YOUR life's book...no more ghost writing. And as Antler said, no more "supporting roles" for you either. You are the star of THIS show and it's on now, it's not a dress rehearsal...
((There, Have I used enough self help motivational phrases now? Hmm? Should have written one myself...hey, that'll be MY life's book!! Brilliant! ))
Sure it hurts, but it has been hurting for a while now. Time to start the healing process and that is up to you and totally you, alone. SERIOUSLY... (( j ))
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
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