I have read the list above that sandi2 has provided at least 100 times. You will backslide and you will regret it. #33 in the list is the hardest for me based on the last post in my thread. However, in reading over the list again tonight I know where I continue to have work to do.
When in doubt come back and read the list again. It is very informative and helps in not only calming you down but also it makes you look at the situation a little differently.
Alot of us here are in the same place you are. I will tell you that each day is a new day and not to beat yourself up for backsliding the previous day. What is in the past cannot be changed just focus on today and make it the best it can be.
Be the person your W wouldn't want to leave but I would also say to make sure that you are being true to yourself. Changing for someone else only lasts so long. You need to make changes for yourself no matter what happens with your M so that YOU can be a better person in the end.
I will tell you that this is not an easy process and you probably already know. However, keep you head up high and focus on yourself without being cold to your W.
M 33 | W 34 | Kids: S4, S3 M: 5/28/05 Bomb: 8/22/09 EA: 8/1/09 | PA 12/26/09 W L: 10/21/09 M L: 11/16/09 | 12/09 to file SA W & Boys Move Out: 3/14/10
