Your summation sounds correct to me. What does everyone else think?
Re: your question about whether W has to work through this issue alone.....I sensed an implied question of whether you can do anything to facilitate her movement toward that goal. Mishka was very courageous in her discussion of that topic. I am very interested to hear her insight on this. One possible strategy that occurs to me might be for you to take your W's back, rather than remaining neutral (I'm just guessing that this is the position you take with the in-laws) in interactions with your in-laws. If your W feels criticized by her father, she might really stand up and take notice if you "defended" her in this context. One thing I really loved about my H was that he always had my back......What does everyone else think about this strategy?
