He really distressed me with one comment that he made "if I hadn't left, I would have commited suicide" ... I thanked him for making me feel so good about myself - that he would say that to me - that I could make anyone feel that way. It broke my heart - I have no idea of even WHY he has actually left, never mind that he felt this bad.
It may well be that this is post hoc justification for actions which he feels guilty about. I wonder though, if you might consider viewing his statement as not about you, that you could make anyone feel that way, but as about him - about the depth of his pain and/or depression.
He may not have said that to make you feel bad about yourself or to blame you, but to try to convey to you that he did not make the decision to leave lightly.
I wonder what would happen if you simply validated that "you must have been in a great deal of pain." I don't know, but it could be that he would begin to talk a bit about it. (Or he may just be a butthead. Hard to say)
