Sorry my last post from earlier was so cryptic. I was trying to post between patients and posted in a hurry.
The point I was trying to make was that if you can figure out whether or not your W's comment about overpaying for ice cream pushes a button that you have (I don't know whether this is the case --- you're the only person who knows this) then that knowledge gives you some control over the dynamic that your W's criticisms create. Understanding the reason your W might make these criticisms can give you compassion for this part of her personality, BUT understanding how and WHY they impact you as they do, gives you some control over this dynamic. Just my 2 cents. The example I (ineffectively) tried to present was meant to give an example from my sitch, but I think I only managed to confuse folks (I even confused myself ).
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