A Little Epiphany - (and a newbie delurking)

[Dia]

I guess your 5PM ritual is different than mine. I go to the grocery at 5 PM and pick out something for dinner.

My 5 pm ritual:

1) Look around and do 5 mins of spot tidying. Did I leave a dish on an end table? A dirty knife on the cutting board? etc.

2) Refresh hair, makeup and perfume.

3) Change clothes into something 'nice' if I'm in jammie pants and a t-shirt.

4) Have dinner started and smelling good.

These are optional, depending on time:

5) Have music on.

6) Have an appetizer prepared. (H has blood sugar issues and forgets to eat.)

He was appreciative of the cleaned dresser top tonight, and for the supper I'd made. Nothing fancy tonight - just pasta with sauce from a jar. He stopped for a few groceries, so he got home later than usual. He said he's feeling down and depressed with everything that's been thrown at him emotionally. I listened, but he kept it short. He asked how I was holding up, and I said I was fine. I said I was there for whatever he needed, even if what he needed was space (in which case I wouldn't actually be there - which made him laugh, which was my goal).

Three weeks to get over the worst of breaking off an A... So by the middle of November, he should be past most of it? I'll continue to be witty, respectful and supportive and it won't even be hard.