Pup- Thanks for responding. I knew you would say that I need to be completely transparent with him. And, if I didn't know my H, I would agree with you. He has said many times that he wishes he just didn't know about my affair, and whenever it somehow gets brought up he just looks pained. It would do absolutely no good, and he would wish I hadn't told him. He's not like you at all in the way that you needed to know stuff and what you were dealing with, etc.
Didi, those two thoughts aren't mutually exclusive. I too "wish I never knew" about my wife's affair.
I also with she had been truthful with me, and would still want her to.
Understand??
Just because you wish you didn't know something, doesn't mean you don't want your spouse to be transparent with you, ESPECIALLY once there has already been an affair.
