Problems after the affair...Rebuilding

[Hope4us]

WDID.

I'll second what No Code said. I went for well over a year without and it frankly didn't bother me too much. You just get to a point where you so condition yourself to not get it, that not getting it isn't that bad. Of course, late night Cinemax is a big help also. No pressure there.

I'm not sure what to say, but I just wanted to let you know I'm here supporting that you're doing the right thing staying with your H.

And I won't tell you I agree with Puppy that you should tell your H about the email. If you really want that emotional connection, how can you expect to get it when you can't tell him something like that? Yeah, he might be hurt by it, but don't you think it might be a chance for him to see that you're not holding anything back from him? Along that same line, do you think your lack of desire for your H is possibly because you're still punishing yourself for the A's? How can you cleanse your soul if you keep this all inside? Is your lack of desire there because you are afraid that if you do ML with him and it's not what it was with OM, you'll be disappointed and maybe your H is feeling the same way?

Maybe you just say to him, "OM sent me an email out of the blue. I didn't respond and I don't want to ever speak to him again, but I thought you should know so you'd know I'm not hiding anything from you".

Just a thought....