For those with a WAS...How do you cope?

[LuLu]

Yes, no more open book. Don't let him cake eat. I don't know about anyone else but I think playing the jealousy card is part of our weaponry. I don't know what it is but for the past couple of days I keep coming across the same message. We're talking TV, books and just random life. The message is make them come to you.

I was watching tv the other night and it was some cheesy show, don't even remember what it was but it was definitely for a teen/early 20's crowd. There was a pretty girl on there who was asked by another girl, "How do you get all the guys?" The pretty young thing replies, "Easy, you just ignore them."

Oldtimer on another thread said the same but a different way. He says when we act the way we act it's like we're that co-worker, neighbor, acquaintance or whatever that's always trying way too hard to spend time with yu. You know the one. They're just too much, always right up your @ss. So you avoid them, you don't return their emails, don't return calls. That's us (no db'ing or 180'ing). The strange thing is when that annoying person stops trying to hang out with you or do things for you and instead picks someone else to follow around, there's a bit of jealousy there. You become curious. In reality, that annoying person probably would be okay if they would just back off a bit.

I thought it was all an interesting analogy. Just food for thought.