Confronting the OM's W - pros & cons

[Hope4us]

E,

Well done. I know it's just about the toughest thing you've ever done.

Just be prepared for it to NOT end the A right away. Very rarely does exposure like that cause some miracle turn-around. What it does do is put pressure on the A.

You think your W and OM are having lovey dovey conversations right now? Nope. They're probably cussing your name and trying to figure out just what they're going to do now. And I would bet my next paycheck that your W is going to be putting a whole lot of pressure on OM. Kind of a sick, see what I've done for you kind of thing and if he's like a lot of OM, he's going to drop your W like a hot potato.

The key for you now is to DB your butt off. No angry outbursts. When she starts in on you for telling OMW, remember your line, "she deserved to know". And give her SPACE. Let her process what's going on. It may take a while, but your exposure to OMW will knock the fantasy of the A completely out of the ball park.

Then once the reality of it hits her, she'll come to see it for what it is/was and that's when your M has a chance. But again, it could take a while.

Patience, Patience.