I met with one of our priests who my W met with before C. The priest told me when W approached her, W already had her mind made up. I suspect the C was really for her to prepare for her grief.
That was then. This is now. She still hasn't taken any steps to initiate D, right?
Gardener
"My soul, be satisfied with flowers, With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them In the one garden you may call your own." Cyrano deBergerac