Antlers, if you haven't already you should read this book asap. Mars and Venus Starting Over by John Gray. Everything we need to understand and execute the healing process is right there.
Thanks for this recommendation, rsf. I will check it out, myself. My recommendation (if it's still in print) is How To Survive The Loss Of A Love by Melba Cosgrove.
Gardener
"My soul, be satisfied with flowers, With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them In the one garden you may call your own." Cyrano deBergerac