But I get the point, its not actually doing it, but haveing W think I am that may make her think about things. She did call last night and ask if I had gone out. i said yes,but gave her no more details. A tiny step in that direction.
Yes, that is the idea. I also wanted to tell you that if you do not feel comfortable with the "dating", you don't have to discuss dating with her, but just tell her you would like to be single again and that you miss your freedom. That sounds kind of like a "sting" but it gets the message across loud & clear and that is what she needs to hear. You see, she is thinking about herself only. She hasn't stop to consider that you may actually like to be free to date other women. If you were to beat her to the punch, I think it would shake her up.
I know the old W you saw Sunday was uplifting and probably hard for you not to get your hopes up. However, I use to determine in my heart to stay with my H every morning....and by the time I got home from work, I was ready to leave him. So, the up & down decisions are to be expected....especially if she heard something that got next to her. I would like to think that she is out of her fog, but I don't believe it happens quite like that. It "usually" takes time....and coming out of the fog a few steps at a time. However, a good "eyeopener" will make one come out a lot faster!
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
