Trying to save my M. W not really trying though.

[AlexEN]

I just posted this on the infidelity forum:

OM's W just called me. Said how difficult it was to call me, verified that she got my messages & asked if we could "just drop it". I said sure & apologized for bothering her. I feel bad now. But at least I know.

You feel badly because you know (all-too-well) the pain she is likely feeling. But, IMO, you did the right thing. Remember, you didn't cause her pain, you were the messenger (and one who is in the same boat as she). I know I'm stating the obivious, but I do to remind you that it's more likely than not (because it appears to be part of the "script") that others will try to make you feel guilty about this or, alternatively, that if you had a "chance" before, because you did this now you do not. Don't believe it... She had a right to know...