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[25yearsmlc]

antlers,

Since you are mainly posting over here now, ask 25yearsmlc for her advice since she is a family law attorney in California. I think somehow you are getting screwed and she will tell you that. You really should fire your L and hire a better one. Talk to her first though. Don't be an idiot in this as I know you are smarter than this.

Kevin

No I won't tell you that you are "getting screwed" b/c your w is getting half the assets in a state that is probably no fault...I don't know where you live, don't practice law ONLINE and am probably not qualified to assess this. I am NOT a family Lawyer in California. (K4, please...)

Most states divide property roughly in half, whether they are community property states or "equitable division, IF the marriage is considered long term. Child support amounts are based on income, and any disparity, standard of living for the child, and who has the most PHYSICAL custody...your L knows this. IS there an issue of distrust with your L?

The issue is whether you trust your L. If so, and if the laws are pretty specific and they often are, (IOW, things are not that arguable in a no fault state as few matters are considered relevant to money, EVEN IF we think they should be....it's the big fat downside to no fault divorce BUT the upside is that it actually usually costs less to get a div, believe it or not--less money to the L's since there's less to argue) so there's only so much wiggle room.

I am not qualifed to assess or comment specifically on your sitch and have never given legal advice here except to say "Get a L" which you have already done...

FWIW, so you know no one who pays spousal support male or female (I know, it's usually the men) thinks they pay too little...but it is what it is. I hope you have a livelihood that enables you to survive this financially and let her live with her choices & their damage and her 2nd thoughts and self doubts. Those are things you don't have to have anymore.

Good luck, and I'm sorry you are here.
J-