Over the Shock and GALing 6

[Thinker]

Not allowed:
- Always
- Never
- You
- Because
- Why
- feel that
- rehashing the past

She broke them all.

I didn't call her on it until the discussions got ugly and painful on Saturday night because I was struggling with the whole process a bit myself.

She also had me on the defensive the whole time. For example, on Saturday night we were asked to write about forgiveness. I wrote that I forgived her and how that made me feel relaxed. (It did). Then when on Sunday I irritated about something and said I was now angry, she pulled out my letter on forgiveness and (in essence) called me an insincere hypocrite for now being angry. You guessed it - that then put me right through the ceiling, which enabled her to then say "You Always get angry and say things. Once unsaid you can never unsay them (ie I'll never forget or forgive). The damage is done. You can never make up for it. I'll never be able to love you. We can never..."

There was no recovery.

We're both still angry with each other.