W wants to separate

[TooLateForMe]

Here's something. Listen to your W. It won't "fix" anything but if that's a big problem in your M and something she wants from you, how hard is it to do?

Don't prompt R talks, but she's probably giving off lots of signals about what she wants you to do. I've been told multiple times that my wife wants to feel I think she's attractive. She's given me examples of what would have made her feel that way. Women tend to be pretty smart about what they want and if you're not listening, then that's your fault. It certainly was mine. You can't go back in time but you can listen to her from now on.

You're in a good spot, having found the book before you're out on your ear. Don't panic and don't waste your time worrying about "what if." Check out a book called "Light Her Fire." Don't overdo the romantic stuff, but the book will give you an insight into being a bit less selfish.

And, ultimately in terms of being selfish, your w's happiness should be important enough that making her happy is a selfish act. That's a hard lesson to learn, trust me, and the sooner you do the better you will be.