Yes, the rules of dialoguing are critical. There are to be no accusations and no use of the words always and never, among many other things. It sounds like, in addition to giving most of the questions short shrift, she also flagrantly broke rules. It only works if both people abide by the rules. I have to admit, that I was a little guilty of this myself. I didn't do it over the weekend. It was after the first Post session. We went home and did our dialogues, and I realized that I would never be able to get in the dig that I really wanted to say, because it was against the rules. So I wrote it anyway. We walked into the second post session, and the leaders said, "How are your dialogues going?" And my husband raised his hand and tattled on me. I was told the rule again (like I didn't know). I haven't done it since.
