W wants to separate

[notagoodlistener]

Thanks for the replies everyone. I hope everything works out for all of you. I've read through alot of your posts quickly, but I'm at work so it's hard to get too in depth.

To answer one question, I don't think there is an affair going on. I actually asked her point blank in one of my breakdowns unfortunately and she is the type of person that would tell me (at least I'm confident she would). She is pretty much a 9 out of 10 though and gets hit on by alot of people...which I used to take as a compliment but now it is actually worrying me.

She called me this morning on my way to work and just talked about our daughter but it was nothing that required her to call. I lingered on the phone while driving too long and probably should have cut is off, but she ended the conversation.

I texted her once today and she replied and then got me on IM while I was working and chatted some more about how they went to get pumpkins, but I shut it down after a bit and said I had to go to a meeting so I could end the convo first.

Now, I'm almost going to get on a train home and I alway call on my way and ask if she wants me to pick up anything for dinner. I'm thinking I don't do that now...which just seems wrong to me, but I guess that's the plan.

I also got really into triathlons this year and lost close to 40lbs. But now, I'm not sure if I just continue down that path, or if she resents it and would rather I'm a regular out of shape guy? But I thought that was part of my GAL thing... She is in really good shape too and we just ran a half marathon together a couple weeks ago (and I thought we were fine!). This S*CKS! Alright, sorry for the vent...Just have to get ready for game face later when I get home later tonight.

I'm thinking if I just go in the other room unprompted after putting daughter to bed or if I hang out and watch TV. She won't TELL me to leave the room or anything, but I just don't even know what would be better at this point.