IMHO - you start with "Just tell me.." and you don't proceed to either of the others until you hear the "Just tell me" part. From where I sit, to do anything either way at present is making a decision on incomplete info.
The trouble with having an open mind is that people put things in it.
My sitch - Divorce Busted! http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1804137#Post1804137
