I am sorry that you also didn't get what you were hoping for, just like so many others on here. But I still have to say "Welcome to the First Wife's Club". After a while it does get easier to get used to the fact. I must admit I never thought I would be able to say that.
I don't know how I would have handled the fact that XH will have a child with OW and I am so sorry that you have to go through that.
Good for you that you will have a party. You are still so young and have the whole live in front of you. I am sure that one day you will find another nice man who you can be happy with again.
I wish you all the happiness in the world - you really deserve it. (((HUGS)))
