It's too hard sometimes

[ClingingToHope]

I can't do anything for that sad, angry woman. Not until she's ready.

So true. When I'm over at the house I used to live and see dishes piled in the sink, clothes untouched for several days and such ... I wonder what she's thinking when she looks at that.

Today, she called because they are piling even more work on her. The problem is as bad as it gets, they might not reach out to us because that would show weakness or perhaps be admitting we weren't the problem.

My W is so stubborn I wonder if she'd admit that even if she went bankrupt, was spending each childless weekend on the coach watching B movies and taking antidepressants.

Everyone has different definition of being detached. Today, on the phone I didn't have this great urge to make things better for W. She chose her job over us and the family a long time ago. This is her mountain to climb.

Where are you, do you think, on detaching?