Gotta Keep Trying 2

[mishka422]

So here's the million dollar question. If we could figure this out on this forum board why couldn't her C figure it out?! I know from what little W has told me about her C sessions, her C told W "I think we're done here" in response to my W smiling at C's question of what life looked like after D!! And, no, no one ever reached out to me or even told me @ W's C'ing. And the topper is the C was a group to whom our CHURCH refers. Don't know about anyone else, but I was taught the Church was supposed to try to save M and the family where possible.

First, the church refers to Christian counselors typically. That doesn't mean that they necessarily are advocates of saving M. Every C has their own beliefs and those are sometimes transmuted to the client.

Second, why did the C not see this? It would depend on what your W was sharing with her and if she was asking her any questions or just letting her talk and vent. My first C, right after the bomb, was good but I wasn't in the right frame of mind to fix childhood issues right then. I had to get through panic mode and she helped me do that. Your W may have been in such a state when she got to her that her current issues were much more pressing that her FOO problems. C's, in my experience, will focus on the most immediate problem first and then dive deeper into the underlying issues. That is how it should be. If your W stopped going once she got the one answer she thought she wanted, she never even touched on the rest of her issues.