Great post. I think I have understood W cannot accept a compliment. I just didn't understand why.
My W fits the description in your post to a T.
The frustrating part for me (and the LBS) is I thought (and still do) I was doing what a thoughtful, loving spouse was supposed to do. I didn't over do the compliments and made them where appropriate. And I always meant it.
So here's the million dollar question. If we could figure this out on this forum board why couldn't her C figure it out?! I know from what little W has told me about her C sessions, her C told W "I think we're done here" in response to my W smiling at C's question of what life looked like after D!! And, no, no one ever reached out to me or even told me @ W's C'ing. And the topper is the C was a group to whom our CHURCH refers. Don't know about anyone else, but I was taught the Church was supposed to try to save M and the family where possible.
