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Re: Still in the tunnel with hubby
kjensen
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10/12/09
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kjensen,
Putting your M back together it isn't going to happen the way you envision it. It won't be all romantic etc.
How about a spontaneous "date"? You plan it out and make sure he has the day off, then just say, "Hey <wink, wink> how about you and me...."
Don't fall into negative thinking about "I'm doing all the work". First off, yeah you are. If it isn't worth it to you, you do have a choice.
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I think I'm just tired and maybe burned out a bit by doing all of the work, so to speak, in this relationship and getting nothing in return.
How about reframing this? Can you spin it for yourself so that what you're getting is a chance to piece you M back together?
I have a book that's been helpful for me "how to improve your marriage without talking about it".
I'm not in the same place as you, but it can't hurt, might help.
The other thing I do, is anything physical. Takes the edge off.
Hang in there.
HUGS
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