Problems after the affair...Rebuilding

[kat727]

Hey hon, I am sorry that you are still having issues in that area. I can just go from my situation where my ex was always trying to manipulate me to make love without ever caring what I wanted or needed. It can become such a terrible cycle and the next thing you know...here you are.

I think counseling would be really helpful for both of you. Glad that you could talk about it but you have to work at it now. It may not be fanatastic the first few times but it will surely get better as you both allow yourselves to break down your barriers.

Oh and yes for at least my ex sex=love. I guess he never saw all the ways I showed him. I think that is true for a lot of men.

kat