And yet she made the obstacles so difficult, raised the bar so high, that she made the task near impossible for me to achieve. It's as if she wanted us to fail (and that's something my IC had said). She shut me down. Either way, I still wonder, if there hadn't been this OM, would we have been able to turn things around.
Sorry for the hijack, but NC, I suspect it's because of the OM that your X was acting this way, very critical and negative, etc. I think when they have EA/PA they take off the rose-colored glasses and view everything through dark,twisted ones. And some of it I'm sure helps to justify their actions and help with their guilt. I think you should never have any regrets; we've all made mistakes in our marriages as none of us are perfect!
Becca, I'm glad to see you post. I don't have any advice to offer, except maybe look into IC, MC, or a therapist which specializes in sexual issues? Why do you think you're not attracted to your H? And maybe he picks up on that and puts a damper on things for him? I know MWD also has a book she wrote on this, isn't it Sex Starved or something. Have you read that or would that be a good read? I'm not sure...
