Today is my first real victory in the 'letting go of this relationship' and I feel really good. I had a text from my wife this morning asking is she could come around tonight at 8.30pm as 'I need to talk' and sort out some dates to see my daughter. I texted her back that I was busy tonight and could she text me the dates and I'll look at the calendar. I got a receipt saying it had been delivered 2 hours ago (during her work break) - no response to it. It feels good. Really good for me to be finally standing up for myself. It's too late, but it still feels good.
P17,
I just now read this part (hey, what can I say -- yours was a looong post!), and GOOD FOR YOU! That is EXACTLY how you should handle requests like that.
She no longer controls YOUR timetable, and YOUR agenda. Be kind, and be reasonable about when you get together, but let it be when it's convenient for YOU.
