No, I didn't think you were necessarily. What I meant is when the ex thinks thinks that they have you pinned down like that.
It's almost as if they want and needto think you're still stuck and suffering for them. It's like a weird sadism on their part, as well as a source of pride too.
xW continues to mistake my concerns for our sons' interests as being jealous of her or wanting her back. It really doesn't make any sense sometimes, but it's like she clings to that notion. In fact it also at the same time makes her angry that I am supposedly not recognizing her independence from me. She can't seem to understand that if I have let her go, it does not in any way mean I am letting my S's go. Ever.
I've long ago given up trying to explain myself. I don't care if she figures it out or not anymore, except where the resulting friction makes it difficult for us to co-parent our kids.
