DID XH M OW or not??

[cagzmom]

This is what I have learned from my own experience AND from others that I have watched and lived affairs with.

IF you try and "SHOW" the truth it WILL BLOW UP in your face!! IT WILL!!! Dont try and "EXPOSE HIM.."let her figure it out as she goes along. If she sees her dad as a loving father that is ok.. Really come on Peace you know this.. LET HER SEE HER DAD for what she sees.

USE WISDOM on this one and FIGHT that emotion!!! FIGHT IT!!! Emotions do NOT do us any good (when they RULE us). Your daughter probably knows alot more then she will ever let on. AND she needs to feel SAFE with you to SHARE with you EVERYTHING... let her have her thoughts.

In regards to OW I do know this.. (From my own experience) OW #2 the real bimbo at catalyst to my marriage was in my d13's life for about 9 months. She lived with x for about 5 months of that time.. BUT anytime he had d13 bimbo was there... AND this was the hardest part.. She was GOOD to my daughter.. nice and all that jazz. IT HURT LIKE HE**!! The worst was her 5th grade graduation when x gave her flowers and a card and tehy BOTH SIGNED THEM!!! THE B** signed the freakin' card!! i was so very very hurt.. BUT I kept my mouth shut.. and you know what my daughter dealt with it on her own.

14 year old divorced kids are different.. the see and here things.. WAY more then we want them to and way more then we think they did. She will figure it out -- but let her..