Still in the tunnel with hubby

[kjensen]

Thanks D. Good advice. So I'm finding it hard to detach and remain reaction-less...I did take D12 to a movie Saturday night and left H behind in bed watching football...She and I had a great time.

Journaling/Venting:

H and I are supposed to take the other on a date -alternating who sets up the date each week. Last weekend was the first date and that didn't happen because of our blow-up..This weekend didn't happen b/c H was sick. I told H I had an idea for a date if he didn't since I wasn't sure whose week it would be... H looked surprised and said he hadn't really thought about it. Needless to say, no date happened. I'm not going to bring it up again. I haven't brought up our "talk days" either and they aren't happening...so much for marriage counseling.

I know H is in MLC but we're also in marriage counseling and when H says to our therapist, sincerely, that he's interested in doing these 'homework' assignments then later fogets about them..this makes me feel like I'm the only one really trying, which I think I am..and then I get down and start thinking "why bother"...

I think I'm just tired and maybe burned out a bit by doing all of the work, so to speak, in this relationship and getting nothing in return. Keeping a positive attitude in the face of chronic criticism/apathy is wearing me down. Has anyone else come up with a strategy to avoid 'burn out'?