I wish the weekend went better for you. Be strong, Be patient take a step back and evaluate your sitch. Don't worry about her. Focus on your self and your children. She see's your anger as your mad that she didn't act as you wanted her to. Set her free. Just my 2 cents.
Pray, hope, and don't worry!
H:37 W:34 D11,S8,S6 Together 19 years M:10 Bomb:4/09
I'm so sorry. You need to take care of yourself at this point. I am convinced that she is a depressed person who will live her entire life depressed. It has been demonstrated that you can't change that.
Really sorry about your weekend and I understand. Nothing to say that hasn't already hasn't already been said other than I will continue to keep you and your family in my prayers.
I think you are dealing with a personality disorder. She flagrantly disregarded the rules of dialogue that were taught. To what purpose? Just a week ago she was arguing to stay married for the kids. Then she has the chance to fix the marriage and create a happy life, and she systematically sabotages it. It doesn't make sense.
All I can add to this is keep being patient. She is still in the house with you. As long as that is the case, there is still hope to reconcile. Keep your daily interactions positive and subdue your anger around her at all costs.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
I think you are dealing with a personality disorder. She flagrantly disregarded the rules of dialogue that were taught. To what purpose? Just a week ago she was arguing to stay married for the kids. Then she has the chance to fix the marriage and create a happy life, and she systematically sabotages it. It doesn't make sense.
I think Lotus is onto something here. It sounds like she was aggressively defensive, if that makes sense. And if so, it points to a whole lot of fear.
I'm sorry the weekend was such a bust.
<tea and sympathy>
Dia
The trouble with having an open mind is that people put things in it.
My sitch - Divorce Busted! http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1804137#Post1804137
Ah, sweetie, I'm SO sorry it went down that way. It's hard to avoid having high hopes.
With the best will in the world, you can't return your own serve, and that REALLY sucks.
Couple things (and if you're still in the licking-your-wounds stage, feel free to tell me to stuff it; I understand.)
What did YOU learn that was helpful/awesome/fascinating?
--also--
Originally Posted By: Thinker
Last night and today I have been more angry than I have ever been - completely irrational at times.
Understand, I am absoulutely NOT implying that you should not be this mad. I'm just wondering about the whys a bit. For myself, when I'm *irrationally* angry, and boy can I be ..... there is almost always something to learn about myself. WHY does that particular hot button work so well, and who installed it in the first place? Any thoughts?
"Show me a completely smooth operation and I'll show you someone who's covering mistakes. Real boats rock." -- Frank Herbert
