As my wife is having an affair and the OM is there already / soon to be / later to move here.

If she is having an affair why would I tell her about my intention to date?

What difference would it make to her?

How would I approach telling her when I'm going dark? I assume, as I haven't read the book, that going dark is stop all contact, concentrate on yourself and your needs and become 'mysterious' (as The No More Mr Nice Guy peeps put it)?

I'll read DR book first. I hope it's here soon.

Last edited by P17; 10/12/09 03:53 PM.
Me 36, W 34 | D 8 | M 3.5y
Sep 2Aug09 | Left 6Sep09 | OM in 10Oct09 | NC 17Nov09 | Gave up caring - Jan 2010

"Have integrity. Do what is right, not what is expedient."
"Delay is the antidote for anger"