HBH i know how you feel. I am hurting as much too. My wife already moved out so everytime I visit my daughter I am a guest.
I do not think you can ever detach so that you don't care, but detaching so that it doesn't hurt as much is more doable.
You are in a really good position compared to a lot of people. All you have to do is give her the space that she needs. Hard as hell to accomplish but it is what she wants.
Do what works. That is the best solution i have come up with doing this DB stuff. IF something feels wrong, it will bottle up inside you later, unless you know how not to keep it in. If galing helps you release tension then do it.
