When I would compliment her in the past, she never excepted it. Whether it was because she thought I was supposed to, or whether she thought I had a motive for doing so, I couldn't tell you, but after her A, we've discussed it.
OM would tell her those kinds of things and she fell for it as a huge compliment, but if I did, she blew it off. During our conversation, I asked her about that. Why would she accept OM's compliments, but not mine, when they were the same compliment. She couldn't come up with an answer.
If you ever get to that point with your W, you have to bring that up. Since I have, she's been more accepting of my compliments. And if I get one of those noises from her after a compliment that shows she doesn't believe it, I call her on it.
You're absolutely correct. If you get to that point, you both have a lot of work to do. Recovery is a tough thing, but worth it in the end.
H4U.
Hope4us
Me - 49, W 49 S22 & S18 Dday 9/4/07 W claims NC 4/7/08 8/29/09 - Divorce Busted. Lots to work through, but we're going to make it.
