My wife and I had a really nice weekend again. Friday nite I initiated inviting her and the boys (and she subsequently invited her parents) over for some grilled wings, pizza and snax to watch the Yankees game. She seemed wary at first as to why I wanted to have it at MY house (I've been mostly at hers lately), but it's where the grill is, so that was a natural. I do think she (and the kids) still get weirded out when I spend time alone here, but I think it's important for us to take this slowly. We had a really nice time at our little "party" and we all went back to her place where I spent the night.
Saturday was S13's baseball game, and we got our first win after an 0-3 start (I manage the team). My wife asked me several questions about the game, and seems to be genuinely working on positive affirmation and talking to me about my interests, which makes me feel really good. Rest of the afternoon I did chores, and then W invited me out on a date to go see "Couples Retreat" together, which was a really good movie (and also very good for US, considering its message). We went out for a snack and some drinks afterward, and then I spent the night at her place.
Sunday was more chores, watched some football alone at my house, and then we went to a 50th wedding anniversary party for a couple that had been our pre-Canaa (sp?) sponsorship couple 26 years ago when we got engaged. We've stayed pretty close to them over the years, we're pretty sure they know about my wife's affair two years ago (they at least know we almost got D'd), although it's never been discussed with them. The party was really nice, and at one point they had a slide slow with music, showing all kinds of family photos and memories of them, their kids, their grandkids and family vacations and stuff. W and I were holding hands, and I leaned over at that point and whispered in her ear ("I want us to have one of these slide shows someday,") and she just smiled and gave my hand a squeeze.
We danced.
A huge curveball in the evening was the bomb that her former best female friend and her husband are getting a divorce. We knew only that "they were having some issues," and this woman was one who totally distanced herself from MY wife when my wife had her affair, and they've only recently started becoming friendly again. No idea if there is OM/OW involved in their sitch, but the long car-ride home gave us the opportunity to talk about some things about how we think the two of them took each other for granted, how WE took each other for granted, etc. My wife seemed really genuinely upset to hear about this couple.
