Sweetie, sometimes thing just have to be said. If you can say it with love, convey the message in as nonblaming a way as possible, and are true to what you feel and you need, then really no irreparable damage can be done.
It is when we start to realize that standing up for ourselves is empowering, that we can start to shift within. Accepting what we can and can not live with, doing what we need to for ourselves, knowing that that will ultimately be the best thing, that our forward motion begins to feel a whole lot less scary.
Is the goal to be cruel or unfair to our S? No, I don’t think so.
One of the steps that I believe we all go through is the realization that the only person we can truly make happy in this world is ourselves. Also that the actions of others to affect us only have the power that we give to it. It may feel selfish to do some of the GAL, detatching, etc… things that we talk about here. But when you are ready to give yourself the permission to do those things, as you realize that you are NOT hurting anyone by focusing on your own happiness and that it is not dependent on others, it becomes easier…
You are going through the process and growing in strength every day.
It is ok to do that.
Have a wonderful day.
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
