Hello Kittyfish & Sandi2!

[Jman]

Thanks everyone,
I am doing ok for me and the kids the W its another story of course. She told me tonight that she is miserable and has been for several years and stressed and that the only reasons she has not left is bc of the kids and finances. So I said u need me here for the money and she said no so I said I told u that u can leave then and go be with the other man. She told me that was not it either. She said she was not going to be codependent of me anymore. That's funny bc she was driving her truck with no oil in it until I did an oil change and added oil to it yesterday. But she thinks she is a big girl and does not need me anymore. What BS!! Oh. I asked her that do u think u can have another relationship wo the probs we have and she said that she is not naïve that she knows she will have probs like this in another R. Wow am I missing something here she is making so much sense to justify wanting to leave me. She just has it so bad even though I still have the majority of the resp around the house with the kids, dog, house, finances etc. But she is the one miserable and stressed!!??

I reiterated to her again that I was not going to file for D and that our probs are not uncommon for what is going on in Marriages and that if we gave 100% to MC it is issues that we can work through and left it at that.

Can someone answer this question for me? What is a marriage and is there marriages that are not co dependent? Am I missing something here??? I thought marriages are codependent on some level due to vows, having children, sharing resp with one another amongst everything else life throws at u?
I must have a real twisted version of what M is suppose to be then and that is what led to my demise??

I am up this late due to the W forgetting to put a sleep diaper on My D and I am washing sheets and blankets and clothes waiting for them to dry to give her a clean blanket. She has a special blankie she sleeps with and I waiting just for that I have changed everything else. I went in the spare room and said our D was put to bed with no Diaper on and left it at that and walked away. Well the dryer is done and I am going to try to get a few more hrs sleep before going to work at the FD. I guess this is just like a call in the middle of the night so.

Until next time