Newbie.....dealing with a MLC'er....

[ClingingToHope]

My message to her did not say she could not come by and see him. I just told her I was not comfortable with him going to visit.

She never came by the house to attempt to see him.

I haven't read your entire thread. What's the agreement in terms of visitations? It kind of sounds like you were using the kid to engineer her to see you -- and not see the OM.

I try to see my girls every chance I get. On my weekends with the girls, my W doesn't call or ever attempt to see them. She sees us as Divorced and wants to maintain some kind of boundaries.

Dealing with an OM is really tough. I heard my W went to the county fair with an OM after we split and it drove me nuts for a month and there's no proof that it was anything other than a trip with a friend to keep busy.

Just make sure the kid doesn't get caught in the middle.