The trick is to be aware of the mistakes you make, but also be aware that there comes a time your EW needs to look at you and say Hell I have quite the guy here. If she does not then you are just pouring your emotions down a whole. Part of DBing is keeping a positive mental outlook. If you EW is the thing that’s bringing you down. Then separate from her. Let her feel the loss of you. Otherwise as stated above you are just a security blankets she is using (but not appreciating) until the new blanked comes.
This is all easy to type and very hard to. Hell my W was with an OM and I was paying bills and doing nice thing right up until she moved out of the state. I was trying to say " LOOK< OVER HERE> IM A GOOD MAN AND I HAVE LISTEND TO YOU> GIVE ME A CHANCH" the problem is while an OM is in her life...she is giving no chances because she does not have to. There is some one else there who can satisfy what she wants form a relationship...and what he lacks you supply. Best of both world s for her and a loosing sich for you. I feel your pain my friend I truly do. My W has been gone for almost two years with our D being final as of 6 months ago. I still love her very much, but unlike the people on this board she was not ready to make an M work. and while you can work on YOU alone...you cant touch her without her opening a door no matter how many keys you try.
