My little piece of input for what it is worth, my H's family hated me from day one, I was considered a snob, they were all feral except for H who always secretely thought he was adopted because he was so different. They ruined the night before our wedding, the wedding day and have never said one kind word to me apart from one SIL. My H, bless him, pretty much disowned them because of the constant attacking and how dysfunctional they were.
So what I am trying to say is the more she pushes, whinges, complains and all the rest, the more your H will fight against her. She can't win, not now, not ever.
Always though remain the perfectly gorgeous, well mannered lady that you are and they can never have valid ammunition to fire off about you.
My mother was and still is not happy with my H, she never liked him, even blamed him for my father's death, said my H worried my father into an early grave (this was the most horrible thing she could have said, my H loved my father), her attitude has driven a very large wedge between her and I over the years and she had a lot to do with our past situation. Families have a lot to answer for, thank heavens we can choose our friends.
All will be well and perfect in your world soon Dia, you are 3/4 of the way there, once you get over this hurdle you won't look back.
