Hey - what's her LL?? Coach and I were talking about LL yesterday and we were recalling how, when we were separated, he found ways to address them with me - and what a game changer it was for me. It just highlighted for me, once again, what a profound ingredient LL awareness is.
LSU and UGA must have eaten the same BBQ last week b/c they both had the same kind of day yesterday. Ugh.
Greek
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Yeah, that quote was from my fertile imagination of what Mrs. Gima might be churning in her mind at this time. Sorry if I didn't make that clear. Greek
Me45 H46 T25 M22 S21 & 19 D13 Separated and filed 8/08 Moved home 11/08
I think my W's primary LL is acts of service. Hence, bathing the kids this am and making her coffee in bed and going to the grocery store with the kids so she'd have some time alone to. Take a shower or whatever she wanted.
The Tigers were competitive. The DAWGS, on the other hand, looked like a mediocre high school team. 89 yard total rushing for the game?!?! You have to be kidding me. Against UT (I do NOT like Orange). We will be 6-6 at best and end up, if at all, playing a bowl game on a blue field in the snow!
Fyi, seeing a lot of LSU fans down here at Disney.
Good day overall. Started out so-so. Thanks for advice to get me back on track (especially Greek).
After everyone's advice, my in-laws came over for lunch. No problem b/c I get along with them and always have. I had settled back down from the morning when W decides to (unwitingly, I hope) push my buttons in fromt of her parents. The previous evening, I grabbed ice cream with the kids at Magic Kingdom. Apparently, the cashier overcharged us for an extra ice cream cone, about $2-3. So, W inputs all our receipts into a spreasheet and as she's putting in the ice cream receipt, she says to me in a tone as if I bought a yacht without consulting her, "did you know they charged you for an extra ice cream cone?". After she says this, I said in a calm tone "I can't do anything about it right now.". That's not what I wanted to say, but I took the high road.
If I'm being unreasonable here, please tell me that. But I don't think I am.
I didn't let this bother me. I sucked it up, and maintained a positive outlook despite really not wanting to be around W.
Its times like this when I really question why I want to be with this person. I would never give her a hard time about something like this, much less in front of my family. I was NOT happy about this.
Funny thing is 10 min's later, she's acting like my best friend. All I kept hearing in my mind today was a statement she made to me when she dropped the bomb: "I have no romantic feelings for you.". You know what, sister, I'm beginning to feel that way too.
I just needed to vent that to get it off my chest.
Today wasn't my best DB day, but I did the best I could with the situation.
I think you did well with that GIMA. She called you out and basically disrespected you in front of her family. That was totally uncalled for. Of course, I myself only learned through this ordeal that I should have never been flippant, or sarcastic in my H's presence. I had no idea that my natural personality would destroy our lives.
Has your wife always been like that or is it a more recent development?
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
This type statement from her is not new. I just thought it inappropriate as well as her tone. Sorry, but I will not understand the worry over $2 when it was an honest mistake. From her tone, you would think I did it to pi$$ her off.
If we get to MC, we have a lot to work on. She has always had a problem admitting she was wrong or even saying she was sorry. I used to be the flip side of that.
Her comment today both hurt and angered me. But, I can take it.
Ok, so this is her typical way of reacting and interacting. So, it's a personality shift that is going to have to take place.
Do you know any of her female friend's? Better yet, her female friend's husband's? If so, there is a book that your wife needs to read and the only way to probably get it to her without her connecting it back to you would be through a friend. It's called "For Women Only". It is a short read but puts into perspective for women how our communication styles and our way of speaking and talking is interpreted by men. Important stuff.
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
