A Little Epiphany - (and a newbie delurking)

[Dia]

Re: letting him call the shots re: his mother. Well, I have a few things to be grumpy about myself where she's concerned (on top of the whole WTF does she think she's doing to my H and her own ^$@#* grandson?!!), so no contact may well be a good thing for awhile. And he didn't just come out with a 'don't talk to my mother' rule. I said that his sister was advocating making peace-offerings toward her, but his father was telling me not to, so what was his take?

I agree that she has issues, and for whatever reason, I'm triggering them. It's also easier to demonize me than to admit that maybe her baby boy did something to merit my leaving.

I am capable of making peace with her, but I'm not going to throw myself under a bus to do it. There are some things I need to say (even if she doesn't hear them) , and some boundaries that need to be set. But I think, all in all, that I probably agree with no contact for now.